11.10.15 – Family

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“Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands love your wives and do not be embittered against them. Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.” – Colossians 3:18-21

 The Apostle Paul in our passage above addresses family relationships. These verses serve as a manual for family living and are repeated by the Apostle Paul as he also wrote to the early church at Ephesus (Ephesians 6:1-9).  But what is interesting to note is that these words of instruction seem to fall into natural pairings.  First, coupled together are words of instruction about the marriage union between a husband and wife (vs. 18-19). Our second pairing addresses the relationship between parents and children (Vs. 20-21). These words about family life should carry great significance in the life of each and every believer. These particular earthly relationships involve the Christian attribute of faithfulness; a faithfulness that should also be reflected in the believer’s relationship with the Lord.

First, let us consider what Paul says about the marital relationship between husband and wife. We are told that a wife should be submissive to her husband.  Unfortunately, this verse has been misused and abused by many people.  This most certainly does not suggest that a man is to arrogantly ‘lord’ things over his wife or that the wife should be a slave to the husband.  Quite frankly, it is disturbing to hear some of the gross misinterpretations that have been birthed out reading this particular verse in isolation. Verse 18 must be seen in light of verse 19.  God has called the man to be the spiritual leader of the home.  This is a great responsibility that cannot be taken lightly; for he is God’s ordained spiritual leader for the home.  This leadership involves a deep love for his wife, a love that emulates the love Christ has for His own bride, the church.  A godly wife should have no reservations in submitting to a man who loves her with such a pure and passionate love.

Secondly, Paul addresses the parent child relationship (Vs. 20-21).  In these particular verses, we see a reflection of how our relationship with the heavenly Father ought to be, and how we are to respond to Him through obedience as His child.  God has placed children under the authority of their parents, and children are to obey their parents.  This reminds us that we are to submit to our Heavenly Father.  Yet these verses also remind us that parents are under the authority of God.  Parents should not expect their children to submit to their parental authority if they are not actively submitting to the authority of God.

How do all of these family matters relate to the Christian virtue of faithfulness?  For starters, Paul has already driven home the fact that we are to be faithful to the Lord in all things (Vs 17).  Such faithfulness involves a submission to the authorities God has placed in our lives. If we are not faithful in our earthly relationships, how can we expect to faithfully serve God who is our heavenly Father?  When we show a faithful respect for the authorities that God has placed in our life, whether it be a husbands authority (Vs 18; I Corinthians 11:3), or parental authority (Vs 20; Ephesians 6:2), we are faithfully honoring God.

God loves a godly home, and He actively desires for your home to be a home fully committed to Him (Joshua 24:15). Undoubtedly, such a home will be laced with a faithfulness expressed through family relationships.


19 thoughts on “11.10.15 – Family

  1. God commands and tells us how we should live our lives as Christians so that the Holy Spirit shows in us. If we truly are Christians and live for Christ, children will want to obey their parents just as they should obey God; likewise, parents will want to love and nurture their children. My parents love and take care of me. They want what’s best for me, but they also want me to know what is right and decent so that when I am on my own way, I will make good choices.

  2. I think family is very important. It is one of the most important things in this world, so the family needs to follow God. If the family doesn’t follow God, it is nothing.

  3. This is very inspiring because even as it talks about our family at home it can also be referring to our family in Christ and how we need to show love and respect for one another and treat them how we would like to be treated

  4. It is so important for families to be united and follow Christ, especially spiritual families. We need to be grounded in Him and have respect for each other. And as Christ loved us, us in the family should love each other. I don’t were I’d be without my spiritual family because they trust God and encourage me and respect me like a family should. Families are vital

  5. I think these verses serve as a guide to how we should set up our families. So many families are falling apart now days, we just need to look to the Bible as a guide book for our lives. These verses would help us to have happy homes and lives.

  6. I believe that family is one of the most important things in any ones life. We need to treat our family with respect, and I know that with my family if I do this then then my mom will be happy and will treat me the same way. we also need to do this because the bible says to, even though it may be rewarding, We don’t need to do it because we lie what we get in return, but we should do it because the bible says to.

  7. Family is definitely one of the most important things in life. God wants a family to be strong and united in him. A family also needs to get along and fellowship with each other. It may be hard sometimes, but we always need to forgive each other. Thank you Mr. Martin! 🙂

  8. One of the most important things in life is family. Some families have a strong fellowship with God while others are chasing things in the world.

  9. Family should be an important aspect in everyone’s life. We should treat our family with the same respect that we would treat our Heavenly Father. Families should all be united under God and glorify Him.

  10. I believe that having respect and submission to those God has put over us is correct we need to respect them. family is so important and to have a strong faith in God in you’re family is even more important. A lot of times fathers will push there children and they will cause them to stray away they don’t need to abuse them.

  11. Family really is very important, but a family without God is nothing compared to how it could be with God. Like you said, the parents should not expect their child to submit to their parenting ways or the husband cannot expect the wife to be submissive to him spiritually without them being submissive to God in their life.

  12. I wish every home leader was as great as our Heavenly Father but I know that man is not perfect for a reason and that God is. I think the world would have way more peace if the families on earth were like the family of Christ and respected our authorities as to parents, teachers and even our friends and sometimes ourselves. I think man should not take advantage and try to rule over his wife for that is a bad example of Christ, and that wives should help man. Also children should obey their earthly parents and God whole heartedly and respectfully.

  13. Family is one of the most important things in our lives. It is also important for our family to love God and have a strong relationship with Him. Your family has a great influence on your life now, and your life in the future so it is very vital that your family puts God first in every circumstance.

  14. Family is one of the most important things in my life. A family with God is powerful but a family without God is weak. We Christians should respect everyone especially our family.

  15. Family is truly ins of the most important aspects in our lives. So we should always treat them with the same respect we want in return and should try to always be polite to one another😊

  16. This is very true! We should respect our family. Our biological family and our family in Christ.Family is one of the most important things in life!

  17. Family is very important to me and many, many people. We go through many trials and troubles in life that we need someone to come too. Yes, we come to God first, but we also may come to our family. Families are there for eachother and they must put God first. If a family puts God first, it will grow and prosper and live up to God’s will. But if a family doesn’t have God, it will sever and wither. Therefore, we must put God first in every circumstance. Thanks for the awesome message Mr Martin!🤗

  18. my family is one of the most important things to me.in families should have respect between husband and wife and parents and children.God dives us good families as a privilege and we should never take that for granted.

  19. my family is one of the most important things to me. in a family there should be respect between husband and wife and parents and children.God has given us families as a privilege and we should never take that for granted.

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